Reasons #492 and #493 Why My Ex is a DONKEY!

Reason # 492
So, last Friday morning the 2 year old had his 2 1/2 year well visit. Since the boys slept over their dad's place on Thursday night, he took them. I was planning on meeting them there, which I did. When I got there (10 minutes early) they were already in the exam room. No biggie, but it was a small, hot room and the four of us (me, my ex and the 2 boys) were crammed in there waiting for the doctor to come in.

Rewind about a month. I said to my ex that I wanted to tell my 5 year old about the fact that I am getting married). He wanted me to wait till it got much closer, but I told him I didn't agree with that. It's only about six months away now and he is very sensitive, so I thought waiting till the last minute would be a mistake. He finally agreed, but said he wanted to be there when I told him in case he had any questions. Fair enough.

Back to the pediatrician's office this past Friday. We're in the small, hot room and I casually mention to my ex that I would like to tell our son over the weekend sometime. So he rolls his eyes and says to our five year old "Hey, did you know that your mom is marrying Chris, right?" Then he turns to me and says "Now you can stop nagging me about this". Uh, WTF??? Literally as soon as those words came out of his mouth, the doctor knocked and came in.

Aside from the fact that my ex completely stole my thunder (it's MY wedding and it would have been nice if I could have been the one to tell him), but he dropped a huge bombshell on my son and he had no time to ask questions.

A few minutes later while the baby is on my ex's lap in the chair getting checked, my 5 year old comes up to me and starts asking some questions, like about them moving in and whatnot. My son is VERY happy that Chris and his son (and the dog) are moving in. I mean VERY happy. He idolizes Chris's son! It was just the point that this major life changing event was just dropped in his lap with no time to digest it. We've been talking about it all weekend and he knows he can ask all the questions he needs to, but I was furious at my ex.

Reason #493
On Saturday my ex gives me my child support check. He is supposed to pay it weekly, but because he only gets paid bi-weekly, he gives me two weeks worth every other week. I don't really care as long as I get my check.

Anyway, he ended up giving me my check on 02/07 for only one week, which was fine. He's done that a few times in the past, so no biggie. Well this morning, I looked at the check he gave me on Saturday and it said it was for the 21st and the 28th. Ummmm, what about the 14th. So when I went to pick up the kids at his place this morning I asked him about it. He got very defensive and said "he'd look into it" and that he won't have the money until the 28th either way. He's leaving on Saturday for a week on a business trip, meaning I probably won't get that money until the following week when he gets back. Normally, I am not overly concerned about things like that because he is very good about paying up, but it's a short month this month and my mortgage is going to be automatically withdrawn on the 1st of March. I'm going to have to take money out of my savings now to make sure the money is in my checking account in time for the withdrawal. It's just more of a pain than anything.

He's just a jackass.